How I Broke Free from My Go-To Toy
AKA: How I Went From One Toy to ALL the Toys, or ADHD Object Permanence for the Win.
So October is ADHD Awareness month, and I haven’t made much content about it because A) there are so many observances this month, and B) even though my ADHD is deeply relevant to me, it doesn’t always feel relevant to my work/content. But I FINALLY found an opportunity for a crossover, so can I get a hellllll yeah??
But first, I have to mention that I got this idea from Caroline over at Flossy, who I am delighted to be partnering with for two upcoming events:
✨ Toy Talk: How to Shop for Pleasure Products
🗓️ Wednesday, October 30th @ 5PM Pacific
📍 Zoom
Join sexperts Cady Moore and Emily Gay as they chat all about sex toys with Caroline Reis from Flossy in our debut collaborative event, "Toy Talk: How to Shop for Pleasure Products.” In this 50-minute live event, we’ll teach you everything you need to know about shopping for sex toys like a pro!
Attendees can enter to win a care package featuring sex toys, lube, and other goodies or score a free ticket to our three-week program, “Pleasure Revolution: Awakening the Erotic.”
✨ Pleasure Revolution: Awakening the Erotic
🗓️ Wednesdays, 11/6, 11/13, and 11/20 from 5-6:15 pm Pacific.
📍 Zoom
Welcome to the Pleasure Revolution, a transformative three-week program designed to help you redefine and deepen your relationship with pleasure. Whether you're looking to enhance your self-pleasure practice, communicate desires more clearly, or explore the healing aspects of pleasure, this course offers a holistic, judgment-free space for your personal journey.
Our three-week program was created to help you:
✨ Unlock the secrets of your body’s pleasure anatomy
✨ Cultivate a fulfilling self-pleasure practice
✨ Learn to communicate your desires with clarity and confidence 🗣
✨ Explore the powerful healing aspects of pleasure & so much more.
By the end of this program, you’ll walk away feeling embodied, empowered, and ready to integrate pleasure into every part of your life.
Spots are limited to keep this space safe, inclusive, and supportive. So grab your tickets while you can!
OKAY, back to our regularly scheduled programming.
As someone with ADHD, object permanence is a real thing. Object permanence is the idea that if you don’t see The Thing, The Thing doesn’t exist. This is why I accidentally buy shit when I ALREADY have the shit I bought. This is why I wear the same shoes over and over (that’s also bc of decision fatigue, but I DIGRESS).
Similarly, I have fallen into the trap of using the same two vibes over and over again and never switching them up. That’s mainly because it’s hard to see what I have, and it’s also because I love predictability (hiii, I’m a Taurus Sun, Rising, AND Venus).
Since one way to manage object permanence is to store things in a way that allows you to see them clearly and thus recall that you have them, I decided to spice things up and move all of my toys from the box under the bed into an over-the-door shoe organizer (see the reel here), and I plan to rotate through toys every week! I still have my trusty bedside caddy (see this post) but now, I will have new toys in there each week!
Now, you can find all of my favorite pleasure products in my pleasure product guide), but here are the toys I’ll be having on rotation moving forward:
Ride the Cowgirl - I haven’t formally reviewed this, but I will soon because WOWZA. I give it 10/10! I have the following attachments:
Lovability Waterslyde - So I don’t have a bathtub that I can use this product with, so I haven’t actually tested it, but I am STOKED to do so.
Fuze Velvet Dildo - This is my favorite dildo to use with my strap both because it’s very approachably sized, AND the base is textured and has a spot to put a bullet vibe in it.
Lovelife Rev - This toy was made with folks who have dexterity issues in mind. It’s bullet-style but has a place for your fingers, so you don’t have to grip anything.
Fuze Quattro Anal Beads - This has a spot for a finger which makes it easy to control, OR you can put a vibe instead of your finger. Hot.
Inya Grinding Vibe - You can put a dildo (or a penis) through the hole of this so that whoever Is receiving also gets dispersed vibration stimulation 🤤
Purple Bullet - I have tried SO HARD to figure out who made this little guy, but I LOVE it immensely. Some alternate/similar recs that I can make are:
Little Goo by Velvet Brands
Femme Funn Wand XL - If you’ve become immune to the Hitachi Magic Wand’s 3 and 4 setting, try this bad boy on for size.
And there you have it! All (okay, most) of the toys in my line-up. Need to get your squad ready for game time? Join Em and I for our upcoming pleasure programs and we will help you recruit some number one picks (idk why I went with a sports analogy here, please just go with it and sign up for our shit. You won’t regret it, promise!)
xoxo,
Cady
